(Originally written September 16, 2001. Please read all the way to the end before responding.)

  • Addiction is always knowing where my cigarettes are.
  • Addiction is a clove cigarette and a Pepsi for breakfast.
  • Addiction is showing up for a date high.
  • Addiction is missing my mother's birthday because I was high.
  • Addiction is taking naps in the car in the company parking lot because I was so tired I couldn't make it through the afternoon.
  • Addiction is claiming that smoking is a social activity, but smoking alone anyway when all my smoking buddies are busy.
  • Addiction is the tingling on both sides of my tongue, near the back, when I haven't had a cigarette in 2 hours.
  • Addiction is knowing that it's 10:15, because my tongue is tingling again.
  • Addiction is having sex high and not telling her.
  • Addiction is cutting a date short so I can go home and get high.
  • Addiction is not feeling myself until the third cup of coffee.
  • Addiction is that involuntary fluttering that my eyelids do after a double espresso.
  • Addiction is spending the afternoon running to the bathroom to piss out all the caffeine I had to drink in the morning to start my day.
  • Addiction is lying about how many drinks I've had already.
  • Addiction is drinking so much in the first 30 minutes of the party that I have to go lie down for an hour.
  • Addiction is Rumplemintz, pizza, and throwing up out the window into the courtyard the night before parents' visiting day.
  • Addiction is giving a dinner party and getting high before the guests come.
  • Addiction is the very concept of an emergency joint.
  • Addiction is cigarette burns in the carpet.
  • Addiction is picking out burnt carpet fibers one by one before my parents come over.
  • Addiction is rearranging the furniture to hide the cigarette burns.
  • Addiction is a shirt, a bedsheet, and the afghan my mother made for me, now all with cigarette burns.
  • Addiction is leaving the party thinking I'm sober enough to drive, backing up the car, and realizing that I'm not.
  • Addiction is sneaking a cigarette before a date.
  • Addiction is knowing that washing my hands my Listerine does a pretty good job of hiding the cigarette smell on my fingers.
  • Addiction is a box in the back of my closet where I hid my cigarettes.
  • Addiction is keeping track of that box when I moved into a new apartment.
  • Addiction is the first cigarette on a Sunday night, after a sober weekend visting my parents.
  • Addiction is the sound of my ceiling fan, always on to help clear the smoke.
  • Addiction is never having quiet, much less peace.
  • Addiction is calling in sick because I was up until 6 AM getting high, sleeping until noon, and waking up and getting high again.
  • Addiction is going to the office at midnight while high and fixing a bug, just to say that I had done it.
  • Addiction is noticing that I use more global variables when I'm high.
  • Addiction is finding comments like /* drunk, fix later */ and /* too high to make this work */.
  • Addiction is getting drunk four times in one weekend.
  • Addiction is passing out on the Sherman Bus on the way home from an away football game.
  • Addiction is the burp in the morning that is one step away from throwing up.
  • Addiction is $500 worth of liquor in one cabinet.
  • Addiction is going to work and reading e-mails from myself from the night before that I don't remember writing.
  • Addiction is a permanent towel under the door to block the smell of smoke from escaping into the hallway.
  • Addiction is being high when I heard that Princess Diana was in a car crash, and lighting up another joint later when she was confirmed dead.
  • Addiction is coming home at 3 AM from a long evening of movies at a friend's house and immediately getting high, then waking up at 8:30 AM and going to work.
  • Addiction is the smell of smoke on all my clothes, sheets, towels, and furniture.
  • Addiction is the taste of everything, always the same.
  • Addiction is realizing that all of my friends at work are smokers too.
  • Addiction is smoking for seven years through four girlfriends and never telling any of them.
  • Addiction is realizing that I can never introduce my girlfriend to my friends at work, because they know I smoke and she doesn't.
  • Addiction is the tiredness I feel after the third joint when I'm coming down but am too exhausted to smoke any more tonight.
  • Addiction is not having any programming projects for six years.
  • Addiction is not reading any books for six years.
  • Addiction is giving up playing a music instrument after playing it for eleven years.
  • Addiction is ordering "Dancing With Cats". (This is why drugs and one-click shopping do not mix.)
  • Addiction is taking a box that my parents gave me engraved with the words "graduate with honors" and using it to store pot, pipes, papers, cigarettes, rolling tobacco, and ashtrays.
  • Addiction is the little crease I put in the paper before I put the pot and tobacco in to keep it from spilling out and getting long strands of tobacco stuck in my teeth.
  • Addiction is spitting out strands.
  • Addiction is a thousand little skills I wish I didn't have.
  • Addiction is getting high on my birthday.
  • Addiction is the dog getting diarrhea, not on days that I get high, but on days that I don't.
  • Addiction is getting caller ID and dividing the world into two groups: people whose phone calls I could answer while high, and those I couldn't.
  • Addiction is not answering the door on Halloween because I'm high.
  • Addiction is scraping the bowl and smoking the resin.
  • Addiction is moist sticky tar on my fingers.
  • Addiction is having a folder of bookmarks to drink mix web sites.
  • Addiction is moving to the other side of the room to see if I'm higher over there.
  • Addiction is losing track of how many brands of cigarettes I've smoked.
  • Addiction is giving a friend a joint for her 30th birthday with an inscription that read, "Take years off your life while you still have them."
  • Addiction is smoking while sick.
  • Addiction is a persistent cough.
  • Addiction is the taste of phlegm first thing in the morning.
  • Addiction is the dry roughness on the top of my throat that no amount of water can quench.
  • Addiction is the taste of Halls cough drops every day, despite the warning on the bag that said that they should not be taken for more than seven days or for persistent conditions such as smoker's cough.
  • Addiction is unrolling the butt of a clove into a bowl and smoking it because I'm out of cigarettes.
  • Addiction is going to sleep high.
  • Addiction is being too high to sleep.
  • Addiction is learning to pace myself throughout the night so I could be sober enough to sleep.
  • Addiction is a cold sweat.
  • Addiction is a permanent stain on my pillow where my mouth rests.
  • Addiction is not being able to sleep sober.
  • Addiction is always dreaming of myself smoking.
  • Addiction is waking up feeling like my eyes are sunk into the back of my head.
  • Addiction is really messy shits.
  • Addiction is my heart racing after a fat joint and not knowing if it's a heart attack.
  • Addiction is demons scratching on the inside of my skull.
  • Addiction is still drinking mixed drinks when everyone else has switched to soda.
  • Addiction is being recognized by all the clerks at the liquor store.
  • Addiction is keeping track of who knows what.
  • Addiction is a lot of lying to a lot of people.
  • Addiction is not being able to account for all my time.
  • Addiction is the constant fear of being discovered.
  • Addiction is sleeping on my own couch for months.
  • Addiction is waking up in the middle of the night to find that I had rearranged the furniture.
  • Addiction is gaining 40 pounds because I just wasn't paying any attention.
  • Addiction is getting drunk on the weekends with my girlfriend because we couldn't think of anything else to do.
  • Addiction is waiting for the knock on the door that never comes.
  • Addiction is the flashing of police sirens outside, and wondering if they're coming for me, but they never do.
  • Addiction is wondering when someone will please notice that I'm a fuckup and come take away my apartment, my dog, my high-paying job, my charmed life, but no one ever does.
  • Addiction is smoking a joint and hearing a knock on the door, freaking out, looking through the peephole, seeing that it's only my best friend, and then not letting him in until I smoke a cigarette to cover up some of the smell.
  • Addiction is knowing how to refill a Zippo lighter.
  • Addiction is the nod that means we're all going to the back room to get high.
  • Addiction is an ashtray in every room.
  • Addiction is hiding the ashtrays before taking pictures of my new apartment to send to my parents.
  • Addiction is hiding the ashtrays before going out, on the off chance that we'll end up at my place tonight.
  • Addiction is not being able to let my girlfriend into my apartment after she drove me home from a car accident because my ashtray was on my desk in plain sight.
  • Addiction is thinking about all the things I could do, but never getting anything done.
  • Addiction is thinking every year that this year will be different, then finding out it's exactly the same.
  • Addiction is figuring that I'll quit "someday".
  • Addiction is trying to quit, and lasting eight hours.
  • Addiction is feeling like this is the only way life could ever be.
  • Addiction is always near.
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I went cold turkey sort of by accident, one drug at a time. Alcohol was first, then pot a few days later, then cigarettes a few days after that. Not drinking caffeine was an accident, too. I was so depressed and out of my head, I didn't even realize I was sober until two days after my last cigarette. I left my cigarettes and my pot on my desk, in plain sight, assuming I would get back to them, but I never did. After seven days I put them away, assuming I would get back to them, but I never did. After two weeks I dumped the alcohol -- all $500 worth of it -- down the kitchen sink and threw away all the shot glasses but one. After three weeks I turned off the fan. After two months I threw away the pot and all the pipes but one. After six months I threw away the cigarettes and all the ashtrays but one. After eighteen months I threw away the last remaining shot glass, pipe, and ashtray.

In the meantime, I meditated, and exercised, and cried a lot. I also kept track of how many days I had gone without a cigarette (and also my other drugs, although I didn't tell my coworkers that). Every morning, I would open up my desktop wallpaper image in Photo Editor, add another tally mark, save it, and update the desktop. I started in the upper right corner and counted left in two groups of five, then down until I ran out of room, then started at the top of the next column over. Every morning, another mark. Weekends were the hardest, but Mondays were great -- Mondays were three marks. I only counted days I had completed; the current day never counts until tomorrow, because you never know. I kept a backup of the original picture without any tick marks, and I swore that if I ever slipped, I would over start counting at zero.

I kept this up until I left for a new job. I had 219 tick marks. I never slipped. After some careful consideration, I decided not to keep up the ritual at my new job. A few weeks after that, I realized I had lost track of how many days it had been.

I have been drug-free for almost two years now. I don't even drink caffeine. It didn't have to be this way. The happy ending was not a given. I finally got smart, but mostly I was just incredibly lucky.

Last summer, after being sober for six months, I went camping with the one friend I had left. We were hiking up a mountain, and I, in the best shape of my life, was running ahead of him and scouting for trails. At one point, he looked up at me, out of breath, and said, "My God, you make it look so effortless." And I looked back, smiled, and said, "You know, a lot of effort went into making this effortless."